My Story

Women gravitate to me. They want to know “how I do it all,” how I “found the courage to step out of my cushy corporate job to go out on my own”, how I have “successfully built a business from literally nothing.” It’s taken me several years to understand what these women were really trying to ask, but didn’t have the words, or in some cases, the conscious awareness to know to ask: “How did I find my own path that fulfills my purpose.” For that is what they see in me; they see me in alignment with my passion and purpose.

Now, not ALL women have this question about me or of themselves.  And that’s cool, too. I know it was a question I had been asking myself both subconsciously and then eventually very consciously. I am still on my journey of self discovery and believe I always will be. Life’s a playground for us to stumble, learn and grow. I am so grateful for it too.  And now I help women go on their own self-discovery journey by being their coach.

How I got to this place began in early childhood. Having divorced parents and being in several ongoing situations where I had to learn quickly to take care of myself. And as a result, also found myself in situations where how I approached the world was often not what the the world saw as “a good fit.” My earliest memories of this are at age 4, and I quickly formed an identity of “my true self isn’t likeable.”

Several experiences in throughout my early school years, right up through college only reinforced this idea I had of myself. I became adept at sizing up a situation and figuring out what I was supposed to say, how to say it, and what to do. It worked! I was getting positive responses. However, on the occasions where I made a misstep, I felt victimized and angry. And it showed. This pattern carried all the way through my adult life and into my early professional experiences. In some ways, this keen observation skill still serves me. But in many ways it was holding me back. I’ve since learned how to step out of its handcuffs.

Long before that learning, lost and unsure of my own strengths and gifts to offer the world, I set my sights on doing what seemed like we’re all the right things: getting good grades, being a (mostly) responsible teenager, going to college, graduating and heading on to graduate school…and finishing with honors and a stellar internship at a Fortune 500 company.  That internship eventually turned into a full-time role in my field of study and launched my career.  I went on to be promoted several times over the course of my tenure at that organization. By all accounts I was achieving much success.

During that same time, my personal life was also checking all the boxes. I got married to my best friend and biggest champion after a courtship straight out of the movies. We got a dog, bought a house, had our first child. My life was on track.  It was around this time that I first had the conscious awareness of the nagging question: is this really it? Am I really living my purpose?  In an interesting twist involving my husband also having a similar question, so we sold that house, moved states, bought a new, bigger house, and had our second and final baby. My life was still on track. Nothing to complain about. By many accounts and societal norms, I really “have it all.”

It was around that time, that I started to wonder very deeply about my purpose.  I’d lay awake at night and have moments of real anxiety. It was in a moment of meditative clarity that came one night. I surrendered and asked the universe to show me what I needed to see and tell me what I needed to hear.

And that’s when I started to see the world differently. I got what I needed to feel confident to leave my job. To step out and consult. To start my own business. Twice.

And to be completely open, the first business never really achieved the level of success I had hoped. There was this nagging voice inside my head and heart telling me I wasn’t good enough.

Through  my own journey of self-discovery and learning to become a certified coach and master practitioner of the ELI, I learned to master that voice and listen to my inner mentor.